Sexism, Racism, and Classism: The Elections and Acupuncture
There is absolutely no way for me to write a blog post that even begins to address my title. But hey- make no small blog titles! However between how the Democratic primary is going and the recent marketing blog post by Lisa (and the complimentary one on his site by Burton Kent) I thought it would be good to have a small discussion on some of the major issues (sexism, racism, classism) brought up lately. Consider this a safe place to vent or write about how the issues are impacting you. I'll go first.
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I am a WASP boomer-age, middle class raised man, the son of a liberal Methodist minister (dad) and a mom who stayed out of the workplace and raised my older sister and I until a) we started going off to college and b) dad had the basic mid life crisis and left her. So I was raised with the civil-rights movement front and center in my house while seeing how difficult it is for a woman to be a full-fledged adult in our society. I saw a lot of sexism and racism and classism and was taught to identify it objectively. What was (and still is) difficult is to see how those issues are in my subconscious and thus steer me without me knowing it. After all I have an ego and it wants to keep itself as safe as possible by any means possible. As far as I can tell that's true for all of us. There are many dark recesses in everybody's mind, IMHO and ultimately its our need to bring these dark corners to the light of consciousness that is most important. Any bringing to light of sexism, racism, classism is important and helps our collective and personal healing.
I tend to approach elections with a very skeptical eye. I believe in participating in them but I like to keep my distance from people running for office (though I did let Jesse Jackson kiss my oldest son, Kevin, when he was two and I liked that). I voted for Barack because I liked that at least he seems to be trying to get beyond the constant fighting, which seems to be something that Hillary likes, but I would have voted for Hillary in the general if she had won. (I guess I am implying that the primary is over. Maybe it's not but if not then it's moving into a very different phase.)
But though I don't support Hillary, I do like the fact that she is bring the issues of sexism, racism, and classism to the fore- not because I think she wants to so much deal with the issues but she hopes they will help her to win. I think that just talking and arguing about them, even if the comments are hurtful in the short run, in the long run it is healing. Beyond anything else, sexism, racism, and classism exist because people don't talk about them and after awhile of not talking about them people do weird and hurtful things. And that's the good thing about elections: ultimately they do talk about big issues (even if the candidates don't want to) and ultimately our society grapples with various subissues, heals them, and moves on. For instance I have no doubt that before I die the right of gays to marry will be accepted in every state, regardless of what politicians say today. Just bringing up the issue over and over brings resolution.
On CAN I bring up classism so much because Acupunks nationwide don't talk about the issue and then they wind up doing weird and hurtful things- often to their own practices and selves. As a group we Acupunks tend to be white and middle to upper middle class. Our leadership is mainly male though the practitioners are mostly female. We don't have many working class patients, we don't have many non-white patients and we even don't have many male patients and this seems to my upbringing to be awful business sense. We are limiting our outreach and we do it unconsciously.
That we then whine about having a difficult time making a living gets my eyes to rolling. But when I get beyond the knee-jerk eye rolling I notice that for most of my Acupunk life I failed in private practice because I had various assumptions of sex, race, and class that limited my abilities to make a living too. Its not like I had a clue that other Punks didn't. I was/am lucky to have Lisa as a partner to bounce things off of and for several years a public health job that gave me time to think things through. And believe me: if I could have found a way to make a living charging $75/hour I would have done it. WCA started because we had no other choice.
I guess I am an optimist. I certainly don't mind chaos. I like WCA's role in yelling Classism! at the top of our lungs all the time-and watching people's reactions even if they are negative and/or uncomfortable. But I also know that many Punks don't/won't do a sliding scale that we propose. Many Punks like what we say but want a little higher sliding scale (one that won't fit in LOC) or they want a hybrid or they want a boutique clinic. To me all of those options are okay. I also know that it's not the sliding scale etc. alone that makes my clinic work and that many Punks could try to do what WCA has done and fail because there's an awful lot of things that make a successful private practice, starting with the personal, that CAN as of yet doesn't address. Right now I am convinced that there are a lot of failing clinics out there that fail because the practitioner isn't really interested in the total investment it takes to own a private practice (as opposed to working for some company). We should look at those issues too.
But so many times those issues feed into our unconscious sexist, racist, and classist attitudes. Like Hillary and Barack running for office, running an Acupuncture clinic brings up all sorts of deep issues without meaning to. These unconscious impulses can't be solved overnight and I don't know of anyone on CAN who has solved them all for themselves. Not even Gandhi.
But I think for Acupuncture to be accepted into the mainstream we need to better deal with them than we have.

wow thats a macro-micro moebeus string sandwich you wrote
Being an acupuncturist and getting acupuncture has always in some way been about raising or cultivating awareness whether I wanted to be aware of it or not.
The symptoms or laundry list of things acupuncture can do always seemed less than helpful or not even really tag the reality it is dealing with.
Being in business for me puts you right in the line of fire whether you are busy or not. Who can I serve better? how many? what is the most efficient way? will i make a living?
Those bullets are real, toto! and confronting your issues are a matter of basic survival financially and emotionally and otherwise( whether those issues are yours, theirs, or society's.) They are also the scariest best blessings that can be bestowed upon you.
each focus brings you to a point
perchance you grasp the needle and that energy is set in motion
and then again we awake
another day another breath
thanks skip
I really like what was said:
"Right now I am convinced that there are a lot of failing clinics out
there that fail because the practitioner isn't really interested in the
total investment it takes to own a private practice (as opposed to
working for some company). We should look at those issues too." - Skip
I think this is a major issue. It also doesn't take just a business perspective to run a successful practice. It is about being a caring-people-person / extrovert who can really connect with their patients. I think that's why it doesn't matter what 'model' you're using, if you can't connect with the patients, they won't like you or won't heal or both.
I think this is something that is glossed over so much. Is it really about memorizing 409 standardized acupuncture points or about how people notice when you wear your heart on your sleeve in practice?
Best,
Kenton Sefcik, R.Ac
http://www.harbourhealth.ca
I agree
I'm shy in groups so I sometimes have trouble getting myself to go to marketing events, but once a patient comes to the clinic and meets me I easily retain patients. I have one patient that I asked how she found me and she said she found me on a website but she had spoken to a bunch of other acus on the phone, and she decided on me because I seemed to be the friendliest. I think it's because I am totally myself with patients, I don't put on "doctor" airs. Acupunks may be losing patients in their quest to sound "professional." I happen to think being friendly and caring are professional actions in our business. I enjoy having a laugh with my patients too, we don't need to take ourselves too seriously.
I agree too...
Maybe it's about being
Maybe it's about being authentic. If he is truly an jerk, I guess some patients respond to jerks, but that's not the patient I want to see in my clinic. For me, the most important thing is to be true to who I am. If I were to pretend to be an arrogant distanced "doctor" type I think patients would feel that something was off and not come back. I don't know, I would never see a practitioner like that especially if he doesn't get good results. It sounds like he is attracting people with emotional problems.
Thanks for another neat post, Skip.
I enjoy the way you tend to tip over the apple cart. I've just finished a day of relatively modest earnings---about $250 for the day, as opposed to some days before I started my CA-style clinic full-bore when I occasionally took in close to $1,000/day---and I'm musing on success ( I also liked Suze's comment that "success is awfully complex"). In comparison to those (intermittent) earlier earnings and in the sense that I "only" treated 12 people today it would seem like a mediocre day. But it was actually one of those days that feel like magic: despite trying to work quickly my personal interactions with my clients are a source of tremendous enjoyment to me; having the time (because I didn't have that many patients) to have a really good laugh with a few of them, to listen to a couple of them talk about some deep pain they're experiencing in their lives and to hold their hands or put my hand on their shoulders while they cried, and to pause as I opened the door to walk out of the treatment room and to see five people lying back with expressions of deep peacefulness on their faces with beautiful music playing and sunlight rippling through the leaves of the trees outside the windows---that's high quality of life to me. And to me it's also a function of that Taoist aspect Lisa writes about being at the core of what we're doing: the water that seeks the lowest place and doesn't try to put itself above other things. I had one of those patients I think Burton Kent was talking about today. She's been coming to see me for about four years and frequently drives me crazy, complaining about lots of things, demanding things, pushing me to stand firm on the boundaries that are really important and melt or bend on the things that aren't. And when she comes out of a treatment, softened, grateful and praising me to anyone in the reception room who'll listen I get a chance to both receive and let go of that, too. In that sense I agree with the mysterious "Guest" that (my interpretation) finding a way to let go of the parts of ourselves that want to judge/separate from people can open up incredible freedom...
Lots of rambling meant to say thanks for helping me onto this trajectory.
Mark
Long story short, here's
If we want to address the needs of a diverse society, we need to accept that people coming from different backgrounds are going to have different filters from which they view life. Those filters aren't aberrations because they don't agree with all things white, straight and middle class. When someone calls me "articulate." I think its a great compliment. But when people called Obama the same, the African American community was offended because they are seeing life with the filter of a people who were once said to be savages who couldn't speak well. Its a legitimate filter. When people who are working class tell us about how they see life, we can't just tell them they are wrong. Why is it that their way of seeing is wrong and ours is right? So much in society tells us that there is one truth, and this truth is defined by people in power. But this is hog wash. Diversity means people literally live in different worlds. If we learn how to listen, sometimes others will tell us about theirs.
Most acupuncture schools these days have a lot of teachings about lifestyle and philosophy. That stuff is GREAT, for some people. But we need to understand that all of this stuff was written by people who are coming from an European-background majority point of view. They are mostly white, male, middle class, highly educated, etc... Even the ancient Chinese texts have been translated into a majority POV, and we all know that ancient chinese can be interpreted broadly in English.
I've been told more than once that I'm full of shit and talking non-sense by the working class and low-income people that I work with. What they are really telling me is that the filters they use to see life isn't the same as mine. Where I see beauty, they don't. And that's OK, because they are seeing it elsewhere. I'm doing my best to listen. And let me tell you. Its a lot of fun.
Include all perspectives!
Interestingly, you seem to be saying pretty much what I was trying to express, the idea of including and accepting ALL perspectives, which goes way beyond befriending the middle class (sorry if my linking of our opinions offends you!). I’m fighting the urge to explain where I feel you have not understood my intent, but will hold my ego in check.
There is just one thing that doesn't quite sit right with me, which is the idea of all perspectives being valid all the time (yes, this includes my own!). A friend of mine was brought up in an abusive household. After years of counselling she explained her ‘long process of attaining peace’ as being one where she had to re-learn most of what she had learned from her childhood. Her Point of view (POV) was heavily tainted by mis-truths about trusting men, how relationships were conducted, about who to trust, her self worth and boundaries etc. Her POV caused her regular, ongoing pain, which was only relieved after de-constructing her POV and learning that hers was not necessarily best for her wellbeing.
It’s not that some-ones POV is ever “wrong”, but some POV’s most certainly are destructive and unhealthy for the person that has it and those around them. (just to clarify, this is NOT directed at Lisa! That debate is finished.)
I think this is a good
I think this is a good question. Just because the standard POV isn't always right, doesn't mean its always wrong, either. The trick is to understand that it is a POV, not inherent truth. Humility is knowing we are sometimes wrong. Knowing that you are always wrong is just low self esteem.
And linking ideas doesn't offend me at all. I'm completely willing to stand in the fire with you. That's a bonus for people who befriend angry women. We don't shrink back easily. ;D
So, how do we apply this to our daily lives...
None of us have the "right" answer to this, but I'm interested in the multitude of ways...
I remember viewing a site, that was mentioned in a long ago post about classism, and reading all the instances that people had labeled as "subtle classism". One that stands out was a girl, working in retail, who observed "have a good weekend" from a customer as classism, because those working retail rarely have weekends as such. I remember feeling sorry for her, that society had somehow convinced her that she was the victim of classism, when the intent of the customers comment would simply have been to wish her well.
So given that we accept that everyone has a different POV, how do people address/manage the difference between the intent of the 'doer' with one POV, with an alternative POV interpretation?
This conversation reminds me of an old Yiddish proverb...
accepting differences
Now, I happen to be one of those M-F white collar folks, and I really appreciate being wished a good weekend. But that doesn't mean that some people don't see it differently. And that difference is OK.
What is not OK is you judgement that they were playing victim because they pointed out that this sucks for them. This person was just noticing that something was classist. This noticing is important. Just noticing doesn't hurt anyone. It benefits us all. The only thing it hurts is biggorty and hate. TALKING ABOUT BAD THINGS DOESN'T MAKE THEM MORE TRUE. Sorry to shout, but there are a lot of people who need to hear this. Its high time we let go of this need to ignore injustice in life. Doing so just allows the statis quo to continue. And there is a huge difference between pointing out how something could be interpreted differently and playing victim. HUGE.
go on ahead and shout it, girl!
...it helps me to hear someone else shouting it, anyway! :)
I HEAR YOU.... :-)
I do hear what you're saying. And I am not against the discussion of injustice and mistreatment of people. Or even acting to correct it. What I just cannot fathom is how someone's well wishes are classism. If the customer didn't say anything to her at all, I might wonder if they were being classist, by treating her as a non-person simply because she was serving them. But what does it achieve to say that this was classist. Isn't this Political Correctness gone wrong? Should I think twice before greeting those that serve me? I don't want to be rude, so perhaps I say nothing...
There are events in my local area that are held on a weeknight. Now that allows this girl to go, but not me, because I work during the week and on Saturdays. Are the organisers being classist towards me? What about when something is on the T.V. at a time slot when I am working... What about when my barista asks "white or black?" should I scream racism? If we focus on all the ways in which we might be offended by the world, we will surely strengthen the collective hatred that is taking us closer and closer to further wars and terrorism.
Which brings me to a nice example. There are people in the Middle east, who are screaming out loud about the abuse they believe has been inflicted on them and the world by America and Americans. They have been brought up in environment that enforced their belief of abuse and now they are shouting out loud and doing something about it. Are their POV's valid, is their anger justified and do they then have a right to do whatever is necessary to have their views heard?.... (no answers necessary, perhaps just something to think about)
Great points, Raven
Raven,
I like how you point out:
Just because the standard POV isn't always right, doesn't mean its always wrong, either. The trick is to understand that it is a POV, not inherent truth.
and
there is a huge difference between pointing out how something could be interpreted differently and playing victim. HUGE.
I can't tell you how many arguments start because of these two misunderstandings. You're right, part of it is because people don't realize there's more than one point of view. But also I think language is inadequate for really expressing what you really mean. I don't have answers, but I definitely agree it's a problem.
Burton
Skippy & tonight's speeches got me feelin' garrulous...
It seems natural to me, as the vacuum
of inspiration seems unbearable, new conductors turn up pointing us toward
coveted collective goals;
As our talents appear inadequate to
feed and house ourselves, stirring support born from confidence and
passion surface and spread, exhorting us on;
As reason for despair and cynicism
swell, so too that lessons of humility, social-service and creativity
gain momentum;
And as representatives of failure and
futility haunt us, examples of hope and prosperity appear at our
tables.
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Whether politics or acupuncture are the
focus of the last 15 months or so, I certainly do appreciate this chance to bear
witness to the wisdom of the swinging pendulum of
change.
lovely!
thanks Andy.
How I am affected
Eight weeks of school to go and at times I feel like I am staring down the barrel of a gun. I am sure this is not an unusual feeling for someone in my position, but it brings up a dumptruck load of doubt and uncertainty. There is a part of me that is so certain about CA, and I am sure my classmates are wondering where the Shut-The-Hell-Up-About-This-Stuff point is located. And then there is that other part that feels like a complete imposter.
-Chad
Don't worry about it - you'll be fine.
It's always so interesting to me that the people who are worried about these kinds of things are rarley the ones that should be worried. If you're paying attention (and how could you not be after reading the stuff on CAN?) you'll be fine. It's the ones who have their heads in the sand and are still complaining that have it the hardest.
It won't be easy, for those of us with a thin skin especially, but running a business never is.
Good luck, you can do it!!
way off topic possibly
But someone might get a laugh or even an insight??
Obama as Dr. Spock
May all beings be peaceful and happy.
Dude! Its Mr. Spock. Dr.
Dude! Its Mr. Spock. Dr. Spock was the child physiologist. I do see the resemblance...